Thursday, March 16, 2017

Lent Challenge: Be with your children and NOT technology!


"There are countless reasons you'll catch me on my smartphone
or worse, my laptop, during the day..."


There are still almost four weeks to go until Holy Week. It seems like an eternity, but this year I am taking it as a challenge, to become a better person. Lent, as we have seen, is a time of sacrifice and of prayer. Above all things, it is a time to focus on the Sacrifice of all sacrifices.

So, what is your greatest sacrifice? What is it that challenges you?

I want to challenge all moms and dads out there.

Here is the deal:

I have come across countless articles about how technology is ruining our children. There are a plethora of stats warning us how screen time can alter our children's brains. "Diagnoses of ADHD, autism, coordination disorder, developmental delays, unintelligible speech, learning difficulties, sensory processing disorder, anxiety, depression, and sleep disorders are associated with technology overuse, and are increasing at an alarming rate." (source) Yet, where are the stats of how our phone and screen time use impacts our children?

Does our use of technology affect our children? YES! YES! YES!

Meg Meeker, a wonderful best-selling author, and pediatrician points out that "...parents often showed annoyance at children when the parents were interrupted from their phones. And the little interaction that parents or caregivers had with their children were more negative or harsh. (source)

I am guilty of this. So, very, darn guilty! There are countless reasons you'll catch me on my smartphone or worse, my laptop, during the day. There are phone calls, texts, WhatsApp messages from distant family and friends, Pinterest, Facebook, work I have to get done, etc. Must I go on?

The truth is none of that is as important as my children. I will admit that without hesitation. Then why is it always pressing to answer that text? Why do I have look at facebook one last time before I finally set the phone down? Why didn't get my work done before my children got home from school? Yes, my friends, it is an addiction and it's not pretty.





"Do you find that putting the phone away equates to cutting off a limb, leaving you figuratively handicap and literally restless for the rest of the day?"


Here we are trying to protect our children from the horrors of screen. Yet, what kind of example are we setting if they see us using technology constantly?  The buck stops here! I am taking up my own challenge this Lent. How about you?

Do you see yourself caught up in technology? Do you not give your children the attention they desire and deserve? Do you find that putting the phone away equates to cutting off a limb, leaving you figuratively handicap and literally restless for the rest of the day? If this sounds familiar then I invite you to take up this challenge.

Put. Down. Your. Phone.

Put. Away. Your. Laptop.

Put. Away. Your. Tablet.

Just do it. Put it all away in time for when your kids come home from school. Let them have your attention. It doesn't mean you have to sit there and be at their beck and call. It means really listening to them and being there for them. It means not getting agitated when they interrupt our hundreth text of the day. It means playing with them for a bit. Going for a walk or a bike ride. Preparing dinner with them or simply sitting down and reading a book together.

Try to make all your important phone calls/texts while they are at school. Try to limit them while they are home. Make texting and posting on Facebook a big no-no while they are around.  You can even put your phone on "do not disturb" if you are brave enough. I place my phone in another room where I can still hear it if I need to take a call. I also tell my husband if he needs me (aka emergency) to call twice.

You will soon notice your children's behavior change, for the better. You will see a change in yourself and in your family all together. You will be more patient and at peace. Kids are worth it. Don't you think?  Let's be there for our kids. Let's show them that there is more to life than technology. Let's place family first and enjoy the simpler things in life. How do you want your children to remember you? Hunched texting on your smartphone? Or spending afternoons together enjoying each others company?

Technology can wait. Put your children first!



1 comment:

  1. Not surprising all the ill effects of overuse of technology on the little ones. When we were small, we didn't have all that! We were outside riding bike, playing hide-and-seek, dodge ball, hopscotch, jump rope, kick ball, climbing trees, etc. We used our imagination playing with barbies, hot wheels, tonka, etc. Played board games, card games, learned to sew, embroider, bake, etc. We really need to go back to that.

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